Have you ever noticed how much relationships are like shoes? I never really thought of the comparison either until today when playing “broken record” with a dear friend. (you know the broken record game: person questions break-up (again) and you just repeat what they already know (again) over and over and over, waiting for the day when they actually “get it” and pull the plug) We have all been there, but this time it dawned on me… Relationships are kinda like shoes, either they fit or they do not. If they do not fit you try desperately to “fix” them, you buy insoles and no slip padding, but no matter what you do they never fit just right and in most cases it’s nothing but a temporary fix, so you never know what day they will decide to start slipping again. In some cases you can take an almost perfect shoe and add just a little something to them and POOF, they fit perfectly! It’s kinda like magic if you ask me, and like magic, it’s rare.
In some cases this works for relationships, maybe the relationship just needs a little tweaking to get the fit just right. But take note, it takes two shoes to make a perfect pair.
Whatever the situation, the comparison of relationships and shoes fit together rather nicely (pun intended :). Timing can also be an issue, you can shove a tired pair of shoes in the back of the closet for years and then one day, somehow, you try the shoes on and they fit even better this time around… You have no idea why, but they just do. Sometimes a little break is all you need.
Out of all the shoes you own, I bet you only have one favorite “go-to” pair that fits just right, absolutely perfect (if you have more than 1 pair of perfect shoes, I hate you). Yeah sure, you have lots of shoes that “fit” but never as well as that ONE pair. Same goes for relationships, you may have many relationships or just a few relationships but only one of them will really fit you.
Working out a bad relationship is like shoe shopping. You walk into a store and they have this one fabulous pair of shoes that you just have to have. Everyone around tells you they look great and will "totally go with everything"! But they are one size too small, you try them on again and again in hopes that somehow someway they will just magically fit. No matter what though, they don’t. But you buy them anyway, in “hopes” that you’ll figure it out or that maybe your feet will shrink. You’ll do anything to make the shoes work. But all you do is just regret the purchase, and every time you open the closet door you are reminded of them, there they sit beautifully in idea but miserable in logic.
I hope everyone gets their perfect pair of shoes. And if you already have them, then make sure you take good care of them. Resole them if you have to, polish them, treat them well. Because I don’t know many things better than a perfect pair of shoes.
